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📍🇸🇬May. 23, 2021 Complicated Matters in Marriage 婚姻的复杂问题 Rev. Vincent Chi San Choo 朱志山牧师主日信息双语字幕

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”婚姻的复杂问题（1） - 离婚《可10:1-12；申24:1-2；太19:8-9；林前7:15》

1. 法利赛人用离婚之事来试探耶稣

1）在触犯婚约的分封王希律的地盘问有关离婚之事

2）用犹太拉比们不能合一的神学问题来要难倒耶稣

* 读《申24:1-2》

2. 何谓所提到的“不合理之事”呢？

* 犹太拉比中有两派学院的主要见解

1）Shammal学院（保守派说法）- 不合理之事单单指的是淫乱之事

2）Hilel学院（自由派说法）- 不合理之事指的可以是一切叫丈夫尴尬，丢脸或

不愉快之事

3. 主耶稣将离婚的见解说清楚

* 读《可10:5-8》

* 有好些牧师的立场是不管在任何情况下都不能离婚

1）读《太19:8-9》 - 例外条规：若不是为淫乱的缘故

2）读《林前7:15》 - 非信徒配偶的离弃

3）在淫乱的广泛意思与情况

4. 将离婚的原则应用在实际的情况具有极大的挑战

* 每个离婚的情况都要谨慎与全面的考察

Complicated Matters in Marriage (1) - Divorce <Mk 10:1-12; Deut 24:1-2; Mat 19:8-9; 1 Cor 7:15>

Read <Mk 10:1-7>

1. The Pharisees tested Jesus with questions on divorce.

1) Asked Jesus about divorce in the territory of Herod the tetrarch, who was someone who violated his marriage.

2) To baffle Jesus with a theological question which even the Jewish Rabbis could not agree on.

Read <Deut 24:1-2>

2. What is “something indecent” mentioned here?

* Among the Jewish Rabbis, there were predominantly two views：

1) Shammal School (Conservative Views) - something indecent solely meant the act of adultery.

2）Hilel School (Liberal View) - something indecent could mean anything that causes the husband to be embarrassed, disgraceful or even displeased.

3. Jesus brought out the view of divorce clearly.

* Read < Mk 10:5-8>

* Quite a number of Pastoral view is that Christians should not divorce in whatsoever situation.

1) Read <Mat 19:8-9> - Exceptional clause: except for sexual immorality <Porneia>.

2) Read <1 Cor 7:15> - Desertion by non-believing spouse.

3) Broad meaning and examples of sexual immorality.

4. There are great challenges in applying the divorce principles in concrete situation.

* Every divorce situation must be carefully and holistically looked at.

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”婚姻的复杂问题（2） - 夫妻的房事《林前 7:4-5》

1. 不可彼此亏负的主要原则

* 撒旦在人的性生活方面安放两种诡计：

① 引诱人在婚姻以外进入性关系

② 导致人忽略婚姻以内的性关系

2. 夫妻房事的主要障碍

1）男人 - 性无能

2）女人 – 性冷淡

* 这两个问题都不是一个绝对的问题，但却是叫性生活有瘫痪

3. 在夫妻房事的问题中隐藏着惧怕与罪咎的问题

4. 解决的方法

1）唯有爱能使惧怕消散

2）从性过犯的罪咎得饶恕

3）最后，夫妇要靠主来帮助彼此克服性方面的障碍

Complicated Matters in Marriage (2) - Spousal Sexual Life <1 Cor 7:4-5>

Read:《1 Cor 7:4-5》

1. The main principle of not depriving each other.

* Satan has set up two plots in the sexual life of man.

① Tempt a person to enter sexual relations outside marriage.

② Cause a person to neglect sexual relations within marriage.

2. The main obstacle of spousal sexual life

1) Male - Impotency

2) Female - Frigidity

* These two problems are not absolute, but they can paralyze sexual activity.

3. The problem of fear and guilt in unhealthy sexual life

4. The way to resolve

1) Only love can drive out fear.

2) Receive forgiveness from guilt that comes from sexual sins.

3) Lastly, spouse must help each other overcome each other’s sexual hurdles.“

婚姻的复杂问题（3） - 夫妻之间的言语《歌4:1-7; 5:10-16；雅3:5》

读《歌4:1-7; 5:10-16》

1. 雅歌 - 一男一女之间的爱情

1）圣经不是轻视人肉身的美貌或好感

2）在一男一女给彼此的好感中，言语视为最关键

读《雅3:5》

2. 人都因责怪与鄙视他们的言语受过伤，且无意识将此带入婚姻

* 很多人无法逃离伤害他们的言语，而一生带着

* 婚姻里的恶言与冷言都会加重这些伤害

3. 夫妇之间的赞赏与批评

* 没有一对夫妇不需要彼此的赞赏，也没有一对夫妇的爱情能够在批评中成长

* 赞赏不是奉承

* 不批评也不是不纠正

4. 借着我们真实的赞赏，配偶生命里很多的创伤都能得医治

Complicated Matters in Marriage (3) - Words spoken between spouses. <Son 4:1-7; 5:10-16 7:4-5; Jas 3:5>

Read <Song of Solomon 4:1-7; 5:10-16>

1. Song of Solomon - The Romance between a man and woman.

* Satan has set up two plots in the sexual life of man.

1) The Bible does not devalue physical beauty and favorable impression.

2) In the favorable impression a couple can give to each other, words spoken are deemed as most critical.

Read < James 3:5>

2. Humans are hurt by words of reproach and disdain, and they bring this into their marriage subconsciously.

* Many people couldn’t run away from the words that hurt them, and they carry those hurtful words with them for their whole lives.

* The vicious and cutting remarks in a marriage will worsen these wounds.

3. Compliments and Criticism in a Marriage.

* There is no couple who doesn’t need compliment from each other, and there is no romance that can grow with criticism.

* Compliments don’t mean flattery.

* Not criticizing doesn’t mean not correcting.

4. Through sincere and truthful compliments, our spouse can be healed of their many wounds.

📍🇺🇸2021袁老师：在离婚再婚问题上divorce and remarriage将真理给恩典——怜悯像审判夸胜truth to grace——mercy triumphs over judgment

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Apr.21, 2021 在离婚再婚问题上将真理给恩典 ——怜悯像审判夸胜

On the issue of divorce and remarriage, let truth give way to grace — mercy triumphs over judgment.

Giving Truth to Grace in Divorce and Remarriage - Mercy Like Judgment Quo Vadis

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Summary of Key Points on Divorce and Remarriage

主题：让真理赋予恩典，怜悯胜过审判

Theme: Let Truth Give Way to Grace, Mercy Triumphs Over Judgment

本次主日崇拜围绕**“离婚与再婚”**这一敏感话题展开。社会和教会对这一问题存在较多争议，核心讨论点包括：
This Sunday’s sermon focuses on the sensitive topic of divorce and remarriage. There is significant debate within society and the church, with key discussions including:

什么情况下可以离婚或再婚？
Under what circumstances is divorce or remarriage permissible?
如何界定“淫乱”？
How should “sexual immorality” be defined?
教会应如何引导信徒面对婚姻问题？
How should the church guide believers in dealing with marital issues?

但今天的重点不是“研究律法”，而是讲真理，给予恩典。
However, today’s focus is not on legalistic studies, but on speaking truth and extending grace.

1. 婚姻、律法与恩典

Marriage, Law, and Grace

✅ 律法的局限性

✅ The Limitations of the Law

许多人试图用**“可离婚条件”**等标准来判断婚姻状况是否合法，但这是方向性的错误。
Many try to determine the legality of a marriage using strict divorce conditions, but this is a fundamental mistake.
靠律法无法使人称义，人无法靠自身努力达到神的圣洁标准，反而容易陷入自义和论断他人。
Righteousness cannot be attained through the law. People cannot achieve God’s standard of holiness through personal effort; instead, they often fall into self-righteousness and judgment.
研究哪些情况“算淫乱”，哪些情况“不算” 无法真正解决婚姻问题。
Debating which situations count as "adultery" and which do not cannot truly resolve marital issues.

✨ 恩典的超越性

✨ The Supremacy of Grace

耶稣的救赎已成全律法（罗马书 7:1-3），信徒因信称义，所有罪恶都能因恩典得赦免。
Jesus' redemption has fulfilled the law (Romans 7:1-3). Believers are justified by faith, and all sins can be forgiven through grace.
即便婚姻失败或再婚，神仍赐下盼望。只要悔改，恩典足够覆盖一切过犯。
Even if a marriage fails or one remarries, God still offers hope. As long as there is repentance, grace is sufficient to cover all transgressions.

2. 耶稣的教导：避免自义与论断

Jesus' Teachings: Avoiding Self-Righteousness and Judgment

📌 法利赛人的误区

📌 The Pharisees' Mistake

许多人以为自己在婚姻上是完全圣洁的，因而去定别人的罪。
Many believe they are completely righteous in marriage, leading them to judge others.
但耶稣最厌恶的就是这些“自以为义”的人。
But Jesus most despised those who were "self-righteous".
“凡动淫念的，都是犯罪”（马太福音5:28），因此没有人可以靠行为称义。
"Whoever looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery in his heart." (Matthew 5:28) Therefore, no one can be justified by works alone.

❤️ 怜悯胜过审判

❤️ Mercy Triumphs Over Judgment

只有认识到自己是罪人，才会对他人产生怜悯之心。
Only when one realizes their own sinfulness can they develop compassion for others.
耶稣告诉我们：不管曾经犯了多大的错，只要悔改，神都会赦免（约翰福音8章）。
Jesus tells us that no matter how great our sin, if we repent, God will forgive us (John 8).
教会的使命不是定罪，而是帮助信徒回到神的恩典中。
The mission of the church is not to condemn, but to help believers return to God's grace.

3. 现实应用：离婚、再婚与信仰

Practical Applications: Divorce, Remarriage, and Faith

❌ 错误的律法主义做法

❌ The Error of Legalism

机械化地判断“什么情况可以/不可以离婚” 容易导致律法主义和论断。
Mechanically determining who may or may not divorce leads to legalism and judgmentalism.
只靠外在行为去维护婚姻，无法真正带来圣洁的关系。
Trying to maintain marriage solely through external behaviors cannot bring about a truly holy relationship.

✅ 正确的信仰实践

✅ The Right Approach to Faith

与神同行，而非拘泥律法：
Walk with God, rather than being bound by law:
- 关注内心的悔改，而不是外在的规条。
- Focus on inner repentance, not external rules.
- 以恩典与怜悯去扶持婚姻破裂者，而非定罪。
- Support those whose marriages have failed with grace and mercy, rather than condemnation.
信仰的核心是救赎，而非定罪：
The core of faith is redemption, not condemnation:
- 婚姻可以失败，但人仍可被神接纳。
- Marriages may fail, but people can still be accepted by God.
- 耶稣来不是定人的罪，而是要拯救人，使人得生命，并且得的更丰盛（约翰福音10:10）。
- Jesus did not come to condemn, but to save and give life abundantly (John 10:10).

4. 总结：在基督里得自由

Conclusion: Freedom in Christ

1️⃣ 不要用律法框架去评判婚姻问题，而要以恩典为中心。
1️⃣ Do not judge marriage issues through the framework of law, but through grace.

2️⃣ 没有人能靠行为达到神的标准，因此不要论断他人，而是要施予怜悯。
2️⃣ No one can meet God's standard through works, so do not judge others—extend mercy instead.

3️⃣ 即使婚姻失败，仍能在基督里找到盼望，因恩典大过一切过犯。
3️⃣ Even if a marriage fails, one can still find hope in Christ, for grace is greater than all sins.

4️⃣ 教会的使命不是定罪，而是引导人进入神的爱与救赎之中。
4️⃣ The church's mission is not to condemn, but to lead people into God's love and redemption.

✨ 关键信念：
✨ Key Principle:
“在离婚再婚问题上，我们不是要研究律法，而是要传递恩典，让怜悯胜过审判。”

"On the issue of divorce and remarriage, we are not here to study the law, but to extend grace—mercy triumphs over judgment." ✨

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