Image by Musi_Zhang via Flickr”婚姻的复杂问题（1） - 离婚《可10:1-12；申24:1-2；太19:8-9；林前7:15》
1. 法利赛人用离婚之事来试探耶稣
1）在触犯婚约的分封王希律的地盘问有关离婚之事
2）用犹太拉比们不能合一的神学问题来要难倒耶稣
* 读 《申24:1-2》
2. 何谓所提到的“不合理之事”呢？
* 犹太拉比中有两派学院的主要见解
1）Shammal学院（保守派说法）-
不合理之事单单指的是淫乱之事
2）Hilel学院（自由派说法）-
不合理之事指的可以是一切叫丈夫尴尬，丢脸或
不愉快之事
3. 主耶稣将离婚的见解说清楚
* 读《可10:5-8》
* 有好些牧师的立场是不管在任何情况下都不能离婚
1）读《太19:8-9》
- 例外条规：若不是为淫乱的缘故
2）读《林前7:15》
- 非信徒配偶的离弃
3）在淫乱的广泛意思与情况
4. 将离婚的原则应用在实际的情况具有极大的挑战
* 每个离婚的情况都要谨慎与全面的考察
Complicated
Matters in Marriage (1) - Divorce <Mk 10:1-12; Deut 24:1-2; Mat 19:8-9; 1
Cor 7:15>
Read <Mk
10:1-7>
1. The Pharisees tested Jesus
with questions on divorce.
1) Asked
Jesus about divorce in the territory of Herod the tetrarch, who was someone who
violated his marriage.
2) To
baffle Jesus with a theological question which even the Jewish Rabbis could not
agree on.
Read <Deut
24:1-2>
2. What is “something
indecent” mentioned here?
* Among the Jewish Rabbis, there
were predominantly two views：
1) Shammal
School (Conservative Views) - something indecent solely meant the act of
adultery.
2）Hilel
School (Liberal View) - something indecent could mean anything that causes the
husband to be embarrassed, disgraceful or even displeased.
3. Jesus brought out the
view of divorce clearly.
* Read < Mk 10:5-8>
* Quite a number of Pastoral view
is that Christians should not divorce in whatsoever situation.
1) Read
<Mat 19:8-9> - Exceptional clause: except for sexual immorality
<Porneia>.
2) Read
<1 Cor 7:15> - Desertion by non-believing spouse.
3) Broad
meaning and examples of sexual immorality.
4. There are great
challenges in applying the divorce principles in concrete situation.
* Every divorce situation must be
carefully and holistically looked at.
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”婚姻的复杂问题（2）
- 夫妻的房事《林前 7:4-5》
1. 不可彼此亏负的主要原则
* 撒旦在人的性生活方面安放两种诡计：
① 引诱人在婚姻以外进入性关系
② 导致人忽略婚姻以内的性关系
2. 夫妻房事的主要障碍
1）男人
- 性无能
2）女人
– 性冷淡
* 这两个问题都不是一个绝对的问题，但却是叫性生活有瘫痪
3. 在夫妻房事的问题中隐藏着惧怕与罪咎的问题
4. 解决的方法
1）唯有爱能使惧怕消散
2）从性过犯的罪咎得饶恕
3）最后，夫妇要靠主来帮助彼此克服性方面的障碍
Complicated
Matters in Marriage (2) - Spousal Sexual Life <1 Cor 7:4-5>
Read:《1
Cor 7:4-5》
1. The main principle of
not depriving each other.
* Satan has
set up two plots in the sexual life of man.
①
Tempt a person to enter sexual relations outside marriage.
②
Cause a person to neglect sexual relations within marriage.
2. The main obstacle of
spousal sexual life
1) Male -
Impotency
2) Female
- Frigidity
* These two
problems are not absolute, but they can paralyze sexual activity.
3. The problem of fear and
guilt in unhealthy sexual life
4. The way to resolve
1) Only
love can drive out fear.
2)
Receive forgiveness from guilt that comes from sexual sins.
3)
Lastly, spouse must help each other overcome each other’s sexual hurdles.“
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婚姻的复杂问题（3）
- 夫妻之间的言语《歌4:1-7; 5:10-16；雅3:5》
读《歌4:1-7;
5:10-16》
1. 雅歌
- 一男一女之间的爱情
1）圣经不是轻视人肉身的美貌或好感
2）在一男一女给彼此的好感中，言语视为最关键
读《雅3:5》
2. 人都因责怪与鄙视他们的言语受过伤，且无意识将此带入婚姻
* 很多人无法逃离伤害他们的言语，而一生带着
* 婚姻里的恶言与冷言都会加重这些伤害
3. 夫妇之间的赞赏与批评
* 没有一对夫妇不需要彼此的赞赏，也没有一对夫妇的爱情能够在批评中成长
* 赞赏不是奉承
* 不批评也不是不纠正
4. 借着我们真实的赞赏，配偶生命里很多的创伤都能得医治
Complicated
Matters in Marriage (3) - Words spoken between spouses. <Son 4:1-7; 5:10-16
7:4-5; Jas 3:5>
Read <Song
of Solomon 4:1-7; 5:10-16>
1. Song of Solomon - The
Romance between a man and woman.
* Satan has
set up two plots in the sexual life of man.
1) The
Bible does not devalue physical beauty and favorable impression.
2) In the
favorable impression a couple can give to each other, words spoken are deemed
as most critical.
Read <
James 3:5>
2. Humans are hurt by
words of reproach and disdain, and they bring this into their marriage
subconsciously.
* Many
people couldn’t run away from the words that hurt them, and they carry those
hurtful words with them for their whole lives.
* The
vicious and cutting remarks in a marriage will worsen these wounds.
3. Compliments and
Criticism in a Marriage.
* There is no couple who doesn’t
need compliment from each other, and there is no romance that can grow with
criticism.
* Compliments don’t mean flattery.
* Not criticizing doesn’t mean not
correcting.
4. Through sincere and
truthful compliments, our spouse can be healed of their many wounds.
